So I felt this subject to be of vital importance, enough so that I decided to put part 2 of HG Game on hold. The topic I wanna talk about is why it is great not to sarge with a wing but rather alone and if you want to take out someone take female pivots.
Lets start with my definition of a Wingman/woman. A wing is a FRIEND in whom goes out with you and provides support, social proof and DHV's during a pickup. Now my definition of a pivot is along the same lines but slightly different. A pivot is a women who not only provides social proof but also is aware enough to know when to swoop in and provide DHV spikes and comfort during an interaction. Now remember these are my definitions yours might be different.
Now let me say this. A good wing is great if you are learning or have a sticking point. They can see you in set give you advice and push you into sets when maybe you aren't in state. That is the extent of what I see is good about wings. I am going to be harsh but these are my views.
First problem I have with wings is most of them do not see it as you are friends. Mystery said it best your wingman is your friend first, your wing second. Remember when you go out with them it should be to enjoy your friends company, the pickup will come natural because you guys are in state enjoying yourselves.
Second, this will be a general statement. Unless they are your friends and you hang out outside of pickup environments the worst wings in the world are guys in the game. They tend to try and CB and AMOG worse then anyone. There is a rule whomever opens the set controls the set. Most guys in the game ignore that. Last night is a prime example. My wing who I didn't hang with outside of the club saw me in set with a 2set. Comes over out of the blue and instead of DHVing me like a good wing starts to talk shit and try and take over my set. Now I am a little more experienced so I just grabbed the girls by the hand and left but that is a display of how MOST of the guys I have met in the game are.
Now there is an exception to the rule above. IF he comes in and tries to DHV you but the set is clearly more interested in him and not in you, give it to him who cares there are plenty more sets. If you and your wing don't practice the same type of game; i.e. natural, indirect, direct, then you will come off as not congruent, also a killer in set.
I will list a few advantages I have found with having an entourage of female pivots. Women have international signals for "help me I don't wanna talk to this guy". Your pivots can pickup on that swoop in and make them comfortable. Even if that means getting them away for a minute DHVing you and returning. They are great social proof. I mean if a girl sees you with a group of girls in their head they will think "wow he cant be to big of a creep all those girls like him." Also they are great for opening sets. Women for the most part feel more comfortable with a strange woman approaching them in a club then a strange man. For example my pivot last night saw a girl that she knew was my type approached her, opened the set, brought her to me and introduced me as "the funniest, wildest, sweetest guy she knows." Also you don't have to worry about most females CBing you.
Also guys in the game tend to think because they show up to hang out with you that your pivots are automatically theirs. For the most part my pivots will help with a set if I ask but it should never be assumed, I mean more then anything my pivots are my best friends, so I am not trying to pimp them out to anyone, I worked hard to get them to help me.
Remember also that I tell my pivots about what I do in pickup and they are cool with it. They know I am not trying to treat girls bad but I want to make the interaction the best I can for me and the girl.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Monday, June 8, 2009
The Truth About Hired Gun Game Pt. 1
So there are many myths out there about Hired Gun Game, some I will agree with but I am going to dispel some of them rumors and explain why. Let me first tell you what Hired Guns or HG's for short are and why I am qualified to talk about them.
A Hired Gun or HG is a women who's job is dependant on her beauty and who is more then likely exposed to a lot of people kissing her butt because of her beauty. Some examples would be; strippers, the servers at strip clubs, models, actresses, porn stars, and many more.
I believe I am qualified to talk about this because relationship wise I only date strippers and models. 4 of my current FB's (friends with benefits) are HG's and all I have picked up at work with my tactics.
Common Rule Number 1:
Never tip or buy dances from a stripper as this will make you into customer mode. In this I am kind of in agreement with but for the most part I am not. I am in agreement that yes you should not continuously buy dances from every girl who walks up to get a dance from you, BUT rather be selective about it and yes you can and should tip some of the girls. If you are sitting by a stage throw a couple bucks up there. Anyone who has worked for tips knows that is where your bread and butter is. If you were working somewhere how would it make you feel if someone just came in and didn't pay you. As a hairstylist where tips are a huge part of my business I say it is disrespectful.
Common Rule Number 2:
NEG, NEG, NEG. This rule I totally disagree with. Look you can tease and have fun with them but you don't need to continuously point out things about her. Most of them are put on a pedestal by the vast majority of men who go in there. Just don't put her on that pedestal. Look at most of the actress' who have "average" BF or husbands what is the one thing they say. "He treated me like every other person and just didn't put me on that pedestal". That is good enough, no need to continuously neg just treat her like you would every other woman and this will set you apart from every other guy.
Some other things would be kino. It is socially acceptable to touch but throw them off guard. Don't grab there butts/breast, that's where everyone touches. Put your hand on the back of her knee. Touch places most ignore.
Last thing in this post is have fun and make it to where they have fun with you. Aside from what most people think, most strippers hate their jobs. I have known a lot and the vast majority would rather be doing something else but the pay is so good they would be stupid to leave. They are not the sexual deviants most think. So just like with anyone who has a job they hate if you can make it fun even just for a little bit they will love you for it. They will spend time with you, get to know you and actually, like in my case, pay your way in and call you just cause they look forward to you being there.
This is a brief overview. There is plenty more to come but I wanted to throw a little out there and get you started.
A Hired Gun or HG is a women who's job is dependant on her beauty and who is more then likely exposed to a lot of people kissing her butt because of her beauty. Some examples would be; strippers, the servers at strip clubs, models, actresses, porn stars, and many more.
I believe I am qualified to talk about this because relationship wise I only date strippers and models. 4 of my current FB's (friends with benefits) are HG's and all I have picked up at work with my tactics.
Common Rule Number 1:
Never tip or buy dances from a stripper as this will make you into customer mode. In this I am kind of in agreement with but for the most part I am not. I am in agreement that yes you should not continuously buy dances from every girl who walks up to get a dance from you, BUT rather be selective about it and yes you can and should tip some of the girls. If you are sitting by a stage throw a couple bucks up there. Anyone who has worked for tips knows that is where your bread and butter is. If you were working somewhere how would it make you feel if someone just came in and didn't pay you. As a hairstylist where tips are a huge part of my business I say it is disrespectful.
Common Rule Number 2:
NEG, NEG, NEG. This rule I totally disagree with. Look you can tease and have fun with them but you don't need to continuously point out things about her. Most of them are put on a pedestal by the vast majority of men who go in there. Just don't put her on that pedestal. Look at most of the actress' who have "average" BF or husbands what is the one thing they say. "He treated me like every other person and just didn't put me on that pedestal". That is good enough, no need to continuously neg just treat her like you would every other woman and this will set you apart from every other guy.
Some other things would be kino. It is socially acceptable to touch but throw them off guard. Don't grab there butts/breast, that's where everyone touches. Put your hand on the back of her knee. Touch places most ignore.
Last thing in this post is have fun and make it to where they have fun with you. Aside from what most people think, most strippers hate their jobs. I have known a lot and the vast majority would rather be doing something else but the pay is so good they would be stupid to leave. They are not the sexual deviants most think. So just like with anyone who has a job they hate if you can make it fun even just for a little bit they will love you for it. They will spend time with you, get to know you and actually, like in my case, pay your way in and call you just cause they look forward to you being there.
This is a brief overview. There is plenty more to come but I wanted to throw a little out there and get you started.
Monday, May 25, 2009
The importance of congruence and what it means
Congruence is a huge subject in the community. We talk about your peacocking being congruent with your personality. We talk about your routines being congruent with your personality. I think there is more to it. I think there are parts of congruence we don't cover and that is what I am going to touch on today. I will go over the previous ones as well as ones I believe are important.
Congruence in the dictionary means the quality or state of agreeing or corresponding. And that is pretty much what I mean in this post. Agreeing with you and your personality and what you want. To some this may seem like common sense but this is to put it out there in case you just haven't thought about it.
1) Congruence of Routines:
The reason I put this first is because routines are such a big part of the community. People come in (including me) because they don't know what to say and how to act. This is great, it helped me a lot and I know it has helped many more. What you must keep in mind though is not every routine and system will work for everyone.
Here is an example. There is a system out there that teaches everyone that magic is the way to entertain people and pick up women. Now for me to do this having no passion for magic or wanting to perform it, would come off douche baggy and needy. I am a hairstylist with no desire to learn magic, so this would not be congruent with my personality. For some who like magic or are magicians then this is a great way to do it, but it is not congruent with everyones personality.
2) Congruence of Dress:
This is another huge part of the community. I went out the other night with a group of great guys and it had looked like everyone was in a PUA uniform. Everyone had on tight blue jeans and a black button up. Was that congruent with the guys, knowing them personally yes. But will it be for everyone no.
The unfortunate thing about this is that we have taken the individuality that we so much want people to have and made a uniform. Myself and a friend did an experiment the other day and just walked into a random but popular night club and tried to see if we could point out the people who were either in the game or at least knew of it and we had no problem. Most of them wore the same thing; Blue jeans a somewhat tighter fit usually bootcut, Black button up, unique jewelry, square toe dress shoes, a fashionable but kinda messy hairdo and some a fedora. This stops being an individuals way of expressing themselves and setting yourself apart when you all look the same.
3) Congruence of Venue:
This comes from personal experience Saturday night. I was out with some friends who I enjoy hanging out with. They wanted to go to a sports bar. Which was fine with me I was just hanging out. But then people were wondering why I wasn't approaching. I knew that I personally hate sports, so anyone in a sports bar and myself would already have one thing we didn't get along about. Plus that's all they wanted to talk about. You have to know what you are looking for in the people you want to meet and then go to places you will find them at.
4) Congruence of Person you are interested in:
This for me is an important one. You have to know what you want in a woman/man. Know what you are physically attracted to, know what interests you want them to be into. I will give you an example: I am physically attracted to darker haired women, usually mixed black/white or black/Asian. I love them to be dancer more so because of the firmness and thickness of their thighs (so if they have that without being dancers great). I want them to be motivated in life, having a dream and doing something to actively pursue it. I also like them to be between 5 foot and 5 foot 4.
Now knowing that, other then having a good conversation would it make any sense for me to approach a blonde woman who is 5 foot 8 100 pounds that has chicken legs, NO. Could I have a great conversation and enjoy her company ABSOLUTELY. Would I approach her to have an intimate relationship with no. I know that sounds superficial but everyone has what they want. I believe that we should go out and actively pursue that.
I think this is long enough for one post. I will continue because I believe there are more things. Remember it is important to have a direction in life and be moving towards it and that is what congruence is all about.
Congruence in the dictionary means the quality or state of agreeing or corresponding. And that is pretty much what I mean in this post. Agreeing with you and your personality and what you want. To some this may seem like common sense but this is to put it out there in case you just haven't thought about it.
1) Congruence of Routines:
The reason I put this first is because routines are such a big part of the community. People come in (including me) because they don't know what to say and how to act. This is great, it helped me a lot and I know it has helped many more. What you must keep in mind though is not every routine and system will work for everyone.
Here is an example. There is a system out there that teaches everyone that magic is the way to entertain people and pick up women. Now for me to do this having no passion for magic or wanting to perform it, would come off douche baggy and needy. I am a hairstylist with no desire to learn magic, so this would not be congruent with my personality. For some who like magic or are magicians then this is a great way to do it, but it is not congruent with everyones personality.
2) Congruence of Dress:
This is another huge part of the community. I went out the other night with a group of great guys and it had looked like everyone was in a PUA uniform. Everyone had on tight blue jeans and a black button up. Was that congruent with the guys, knowing them personally yes. But will it be for everyone no.
The unfortunate thing about this is that we have taken the individuality that we so much want people to have and made a uniform. Myself and a friend did an experiment the other day and just walked into a random but popular night club and tried to see if we could point out the people who were either in the game or at least knew of it and we had no problem. Most of them wore the same thing; Blue jeans a somewhat tighter fit usually bootcut, Black button up, unique jewelry, square toe dress shoes, a fashionable but kinda messy hairdo and some a fedora. This stops being an individuals way of expressing themselves and setting yourself apart when you all look the same.
3) Congruence of Venue:
This comes from personal experience Saturday night. I was out with some friends who I enjoy hanging out with. They wanted to go to a sports bar. Which was fine with me I was just hanging out. But then people were wondering why I wasn't approaching. I knew that I personally hate sports, so anyone in a sports bar and myself would already have one thing we didn't get along about. Plus that's all they wanted to talk about. You have to know what you are looking for in the people you want to meet and then go to places you will find them at.
4) Congruence of Person you are interested in:
This for me is an important one. You have to know what you want in a woman/man. Know what you are physically attracted to, know what interests you want them to be into. I will give you an example: I am physically attracted to darker haired women, usually mixed black/white or black/Asian. I love them to be dancer more so because of the firmness and thickness of their thighs (so if they have that without being dancers great). I want them to be motivated in life, having a dream and doing something to actively pursue it. I also like them to be between 5 foot and 5 foot 4.
Now knowing that, other then having a good conversation would it make any sense for me to approach a blonde woman who is 5 foot 8 100 pounds that has chicken legs, NO. Could I have a great conversation and enjoy her company ABSOLUTELY. Would I approach her to have an intimate relationship with no. I know that sounds superficial but everyone has what they want. I believe that we should go out and actively pursue that.
I think this is long enough for one post. I will continue because I believe there are more things. Remember it is important to have a direction in life and be moving towards it and that is what congruence is all about.
Monday, May 11, 2009
What is social networking and why is it so important?
This is a recent question posed to me. I thought it was an odd question as I thought everyone knew what it was and why we needed it. I am going to try and give why I think it is important which is what helped this person understand.
First let me give a what. What is social networking? Social networking is the ability to use your skills of seduction (remember what I said this meant, if you are new look at my first couple posts) and attraction to bring people who are like minded into your immediate circle of friends. Now this can be used for multiple reasons.
1) You can bring someone into your circle for the purpose of business. These people can either be people you want to work with in your company or in a certain field. Or this can be someone who inspires you, someone in a position that you aspire to be in or has come from somewhere similar to where you are now and where you are trying to go.
2) Another reason would be for social proof. Those of us in the seduction community know the meaning of this, but for those who don't, having social proof is having the people around you acknowledge you as having high social status because of either the amount or quality of friends in which you have. Now for me on this one it is not the quantity of people you bring into your social circle but rather the quality. Here's an example: When I go into the club the first thing I always do in a new establishment is make friends with bartenders, bouncers and door people.
Why? Because in a bar they are in fact the high value people. They can point you in the direction of the business owners and the people you want to meet. A close personal friend of mine is the VIP bartender at a local club. If someone comes in that she feels would be great for me to meet she will call me and put me on the list and ensure that I meet these people. This is why I say it is important.
3) This is the final but applies to both. You bring them into your circle because you enjoy their company. This seems obvious but people overlook it. I don't care how high-value a person is, if I don't enjoy their company or they are rude or whatever I will not invite them into my circle. Remember this is your circle and it is a privilege to be your friend.
Now I want to point out one thing. When I talk about high-value. That is whatever is high-value to you, because the people I see as having high-value may not add anything to where you are trying to go in life.
The first thing I suggest before starting what I call a "social circle blitz" is to find out what is important to you, where you are trying to go in life and then find people who will assist you and encourage you in that life.
Now I know this may sound like you are using people. In no way do I want it to sound like that. Listen, these are first and foremost your friends make sure you get along. But the fact of the matter is that as humans in a society we are symbiotic beings. We need each other to survive. So why not surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you to be better while at the same time you bring something equally important to their lives.
Soon I will be posting more on this subject as I feel it is of vital importance I just wanted to put this out there.
One last thing there are MANY other reasons to socially network, My intentions here was two fold;
1) To start posting on a subject I felt was of the utmost importance.
2) To list what I feel to be the main reasons why to socially network.
First let me give a what. What is social networking? Social networking is the ability to use your skills of seduction (remember what I said this meant, if you are new look at my first couple posts) and attraction to bring people who are like minded into your immediate circle of friends. Now this can be used for multiple reasons.
1) You can bring someone into your circle for the purpose of business. These people can either be people you want to work with in your company or in a certain field. Or this can be someone who inspires you, someone in a position that you aspire to be in or has come from somewhere similar to where you are now and where you are trying to go.
2) Another reason would be for social proof. Those of us in the seduction community know the meaning of this, but for those who don't, having social proof is having the people around you acknowledge you as having high social status because of either the amount or quality of friends in which you have. Now for me on this one it is not the quantity of people you bring into your social circle but rather the quality. Here's an example: When I go into the club the first thing I always do in a new establishment is make friends with bartenders, bouncers and door people.
Why? Because in a bar they are in fact the high value people. They can point you in the direction of the business owners and the people you want to meet. A close personal friend of mine is the VIP bartender at a local club. If someone comes in that she feels would be great for me to meet she will call me and put me on the list and ensure that I meet these people. This is why I say it is important.
3) This is the final but applies to both. You bring them into your circle because you enjoy their company. This seems obvious but people overlook it. I don't care how high-value a person is, if I don't enjoy their company or they are rude or whatever I will not invite them into my circle. Remember this is your circle and it is a privilege to be your friend.
Now I want to point out one thing. When I talk about high-value. That is whatever is high-value to you, because the people I see as having high-value may not add anything to where you are trying to go in life.
The first thing I suggest before starting what I call a "social circle blitz" is to find out what is important to you, where you are trying to go in life and then find people who will assist you and encourage you in that life.
Now I know this may sound like you are using people. In no way do I want it to sound like that. Listen, these are first and foremost your friends make sure you get along. But the fact of the matter is that as humans in a society we are symbiotic beings. We need each other to survive. So why not surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you to be better while at the same time you bring something equally important to their lives.
Soon I will be posting more on this subject as I feel it is of vital importance I just wanted to put this out there.
One last thing there are MANY other reasons to socially network, My intentions here was two fold;
1) To start posting on a subject I felt was of the utmost importance.
2) To list what I feel to be the main reasons why to socially network.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
May have found a girl
So anyone who knows me knows that I am mister anti-commitment. I love what I do, I love going out and practicing pickup as an art form. I am also really worried that once I get a girlfriend I will not be able to help the people I help and that it would take away from the level commitment I put not only to pickup but my other career also.
I have been talking to this girl at school for weeks now and she is extremely beautiful and so much fun to be around. We have the same interests of course as a career but also she is totally cool and very much into how I help men and women in this hobby/lifestyle. So I have been thinking about talking relationship with her.
I have talked a bit with her about her views towards relationships and we both have the same views but the coolest thing was that she was like yeah I would totally be your wing woman if we were dating. Now I know that sometimes girls say things in the seduction process, just like some men. But hey she is fun, exciting, has the same tastes in hairstyles, as well as the same commitment to the art so why not give it a try right.
So this whats going on lately. I do have a question that I have been asked to answer on here but I want to ensure I articulate it the way I want, so look for that to come soon and remember if you have a question email it to me, if I cant answer it I know someone who can and I will defiantly have them and post it.
I have been talking to this girl at school for weeks now and she is extremely beautiful and so much fun to be around. We have the same interests of course as a career but also she is totally cool and very much into how I help men and women in this hobby/lifestyle. So I have been thinking about talking relationship with her.
I have talked a bit with her about her views towards relationships and we both have the same views but the coolest thing was that she was like yeah I would totally be your wing woman if we were dating. Now I know that sometimes girls say things in the seduction process, just like some men. But hey she is fun, exciting, has the same tastes in hairstyles, as well as the same commitment to the art so why not give it a try right.
So this whats going on lately. I do have a question that I have been asked to answer on here but I want to ensure I articulate it the way I want, so look for that to come soon and remember if you have a question email it to me, if I cant answer it I know someone who can and I will defiantly have them and post it.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
1 PUA + 3 HG's= 1 AMAZING night
An HG or Hired Gun is a women who is souly or at least a vast majority of their job is based on their looks; i.e. strippers, servers, even women hired for some department stores.
Tonight was a crazy night. It started off not sure what I was doing tonight and a little antsy from not going out this week. I get a text from a friend of mine telling me our friend Uncle Nasty was going to be at a local gentleman's club. I needed to talk to him anyways about getting some on air advertisement for some friends who are soon to come into town so I said why not.
When I first get there some of the girls I know including one of my on again off again FB's come up give me a hug and we start to BS. The night is pretty lame then Nasty comes out. He comes over to the table BS's and things pickup. I got this sudden burst of energy. I pull one of the smoking hot servers over and this is kind of how it went:
ME: You are my new ex-wife (an opener I have been using with increasing results)
HER: Well I didn't do anything wrong so we are going to be together forever
ME: You are to controlling I want to see other people
We do a little chatting here and there but it was super busy so they were in small portions. Finally she comes over sits on my lap and says we are going out sometime give me your phone. Needless to say #close 1.
Next is another server. The absolute most gorgeous body I have ever seen. And she likes to joke around and dance but the way she moves is AMAZING. So after winning every competition for shots she is bringing my table I grab her and tell her I want to her to dance for me. She tells me the next song she likes.
In between time a new girl who this is her first night comes up and sets on my lap. Asks my name and I thought I wanted to have fun so I said JIM. We talk for a bit and I tell her she is my new ex girlfriend but we are still going to have sex. She said OK. She has to go dance for a guy who requested her and says she will come back.
Server comes back when a song comes on yanks my chair to the side sits on my lap and does the absolute best booty pop grind job I have ever had. We talk a bit about hair ideas and I do give her 2 dollars simply cause I was aw struck by what she did with her hips. After 5 minutes she pulls me to the side and give me a huge kiss. K-close 1.
Now dancer comes back and says she has to go and says whats your number I give it to her and she calls my phone and says now you have mine I expect to hear from you. Number close two.
I think I could have pushed to get a SNL from the last two but to be honest I was having fun and I know I will see them again.
Some funny things there must have been a PUA meetup there or just a group of individuals who don't know about this forum cause 2 of their tactics were flawless for normal women not for HG's. And they were teaching one other, wrong, but none the less teaching him. I have heard Cajun talk about seeing the matrix and being able to see when people are doing PU but I have never seen it like I did today. The were doing a stage by stage play of TMM, they just weren't negging enough they were at the table next to me so I could hear most of what they were saying. Plus they were trying to PU a friend who would come back and give us a play by play and yes they did use the "Nobody puts baby in a corner" opener and the best friend routine on two strippers. So my first guess is they only saw the show.
Tonight was a crazy night. It started off not sure what I was doing tonight and a little antsy from not going out this week. I get a text from a friend of mine telling me our friend Uncle Nasty was going to be at a local gentleman's club. I needed to talk to him anyways about getting some on air advertisement for some friends who are soon to come into town so I said why not.
When I first get there some of the girls I know including one of my on again off again FB's come up give me a hug and we start to BS. The night is pretty lame then Nasty comes out. He comes over to the table BS's and things pickup. I got this sudden burst of energy. I pull one of the smoking hot servers over and this is kind of how it went:
ME: You are my new ex-wife (an opener I have been using with increasing results)
HER: Well I didn't do anything wrong so we are going to be together forever
ME: You are to controlling I want to see other people
We do a little chatting here and there but it was super busy so they were in small portions. Finally she comes over sits on my lap and says we are going out sometime give me your phone. Needless to say #close 1.
Next is another server. The absolute most gorgeous body I have ever seen. And she likes to joke around and dance but the way she moves is AMAZING. So after winning every competition for shots she is bringing my table I grab her and tell her I want to her to dance for me. She tells me the next song she likes.
In between time a new girl who this is her first night comes up and sets on my lap. Asks my name and I thought I wanted to have fun so I said JIM. We talk for a bit and I tell her she is my new ex girlfriend but we are still going to have sex. She said OK. She has to go dance for a guy who requested her and says she will come back.
Server comes back when a song comes on yanks my chair to the side sits on my lap and does the absolute best booty pop grind job I have ever had. We talk a bit about hair ideas and I do give her 2 dollars simply cause I was aw struck by what she did with her hips. After 5 minutes she pulls me to the side and give me a huge kiss. K-close 1.
Now dancer comes back and says she has to go and says whats your number I give it to her and she calls my phone and says now you have mine I expect to hear from you. Number close two.
I think I could have pushed to get a SNL from the last two but to be honest I was having fun and I know I will see them again.
Some funny things there must have been a PUA meetup there or just a group of individuals who don't know about this forum cause 2 of their tactics were flawless for normal women not for HG's. And they were teaching one other, wrong, but none the less teaching him. I have heard Cajun talk about seeing the matrix and being able to see when people are doing PU but I have never seen it like I did today. The were doing a stage by stage play of TMM, they just weren't negging enough they were at the table next to me so I could hear most of what they were saying. Plus they were trying to PU a friend who would come back and give us a play by play and yes they did use the "Nobody puts baby in a corner" opener and the best friend routine on two strippers. So my first guess is they only saw the show.
Monday, April 27, 2009
How can I pickup in the USA if my English is not so good?
This question was recently asked to me. And while I gave a short answer I wanted to touch on this a little in my blog.
We are a world of many nationalities and no more so then the USA. People come here for business or to live from everywhere in the world. In the seduction community and really everywhere people feel and believe that if they do not speak fluent English that they are at a disadvantage. I tend to tell people the exact opposite and here is why:
Americans love accents. Men and women alike love the sound of an accent on the opposite sex. Sure they may not know or care what the accent is but they love it. Here is why they love it; 1) Everyone knows from the material out there that one attraction switch is to be travelled. If you have an accent this automatically suggests you are travelled. 2) As we know from Mystery's theory of peacocking people like individuality. They like someone who sticks out in a crowd and is not like everyone else.
Another advantage to not being fluent in English is the fact that now you have a cover for the slip ups and pauses in a conversation. We have all been there especially when you are a newbie. You approach a person you are attracted to and you open. After about 2 minutes into the conversation you are in the middle of a sentence and you forget what you are saying. Most of us can recover but picture that same scenario but you are not good with English all you have to say is, "I must apologize I am still trying to learn all the meanings to all the words in your language." You now have a forgivable reason as to why you just slipped. Not only that but now the woman is more engaged in trying to help you figure out the word. She will lean in and you can place your hand in the small of her back while you talk. Instant comfort kino.
Seduction is all about finding your "weaknesses" as you see them and becoming confident enough in how good of a person you are to use those and turn them into a positive.
We are a world of many nationalities and no more so then the USA. People come here for business or to live from everywhere in the world. In the seduction community and really everywhere people feel and believe that if they do not speak fluent English that they are at a disadvantage. I tend to tell people the exact opposite and here is why:
Americans love accents. Men and women alike love the sound of an accent on the opposite sex. Sure they may not know or care what the accent is but they love it. Here is why they love it; 1) Everyone knows from the material out there that one attraction switch is to be travelled. If you have an accent this automatically suggests you are travelled. 2) As we know from Mystery's theory of peacocking people like individuality. They like someone who sticks out in a crowd and is not like everyone else.
Another advantage to not being fluent in English is the fact that now you have a cover for the slip ups and pauses in a conversation. We have all been there especially when you are a newbie. You approach a person you are attracted to and you open. After about 2 minutes into the conversation you are in the middle of a sentence and you forget what you are saying. Most of us can recover but picture that same scenario but you are not good with English all you have to say is, "I must apologize I am still trying to learn all the meanings to all the words in your language." You now have a forgivable reason as to why you just slipped. Not only that but now the woman is more engaged in trying to help you figure out the word. She will lean in and you can place your hand in the small of her back while you talk. Instant comfort kino.
Seduction is all about finding your "weaknesses" as you see them and becoming confident enough in how good of a person you are to use those and turn them into a positive.
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