How can I pickup in the USA if my English is not so good?

This question was recently asked to me. And while I gave a short answer I wanted to touch on this a little in my blog.

We are a world of many nationalities and no more so then the USA. People come here for business or to live from everywhere in the world. In the seduction community and really everywhere people feel and believe that if they do not speak fluent English that they are at a disadvantage. I tend to tell people the exact opposite and here is why:

Americans love accents. Men and women alike love the sound of an accent on the opposite sex. Sure they may not know or care what the accent is but they love it. Here is why they love it; 1) Everyone knows from the material out there that one attraction switch is to be travelled. If you have an accent this automatically suggests you are travelled. 2) As we know from Mystery's theory of peacocking people like individuality. They like someone who sticks out in a crowd and is not like everyone else.

Another advantage to not being fluent in English is the fact that now you have a cover for the slip ups and pauses in a conversation. We have all been there especially when you are a newbie. You approach a person you are attracted to and you open. After about 2 minutes into the conversation you are in the middle of a sentence and you forget what you are saying. Most of us can recover but picture that same scenario but you are not good with English all you have to say is, "I must apologize I am still trying to learn all the meanings to all the words in your language." You now have a forgivable reason as to why you just slipped. Not only that but now the woman is more engaged in trying to help you figure out the word. She will lean in and you can place your hand in the small of her back while you talk. Instant comfort kino.

Seduction is all about finding your "weaknesses" as you see them and becoming confident enough in how good of a person you are to use those and turn them into a positive.

My mid-pickup life crisis

Last night was an eye opener for me. I have posted the good and it's only fair that I post the bad.

I went out last night and was in a great state. I met up with a friend of mine named "Doom". I always love going out with him. He is so much fun and has no problem in approaching anyone. Always a great person to have.

So we hit the patio of this Denver nightclub, where we meet up with a few other PUA's. Great guys all of them always full of information and support. So we immediately jump into sets and just have fun. Now with the first few sets I accidentally pull the attention away from Doom, I know bad winging, still calibrating that.

Then we get to what I see as the best set all night. Two beautiful women that I had alot in common with. We chat for a good long time with heavy kino and ending with a kiss on the check and exchange of numbers, with the set up of a day2.

Here's where things go horribly wrong. After the set leaves I lose state. I start to think thoughts like; "Is this where my PU is going?", "Am I stuck in Denver picking up women here for the rest of my life?". And it really got me out of state.

Afterwards I talk a bit to Doom, Thanks man I owe you. But I heard myself say something I have never said in my 7 years of PU. "Maybe it's time for me to leave the "game". I have had bad days before and anyone who knows me or has read my posts knows how much I love this art and believe truly with every fiber of my being that it can change you into the person you want to be.

I am not sure how but after talking to Doom and a few of my supporters about this "mid-pickup life" crisis I have come to the firm conclusion that this is not the end of what I am going to do. While I am in school I will hone my skills here in Denver. I will fill my social circle with men and women who are like minded and when my schooling ends watch out Europe and the rest of the world. I will have my skills to the point where I want them to be and I will sarge the crap out of all the cities I have ever wanted to visit.

I still don't know what to do or why I was feeling the way I was but I know one thing. Hopefully with the comments I get from the people who read this I can figure it out and the dedication I will have from here on will be well worth the pay off here soon.

Why is Being Socially Intelligent is so Important?

Believe it or not this question has been asked to me on more then one occasion. Usually followed by "We have so many methods to teach us what to say and how to act why can't we just do that?" Here is my answer to that.

We have all these systems that have all these very totalitarian and dogmatic rules. You have to do this, you have to do that. And what I have come to find out is that NOTHING is all the time. There are things in which you never do, but in all my time I have never ever seen anything be 100% of the time. The rules we set forth are only guidelines. I will give two examples in which there are multiple ways to handle a situation and social intelligence helps decide the best course of action.

The first is the rule in the community that you never buy a woman a drink. Now I completely understand that this rule was set forth to protect the men who are not socially intelligent from women who go out with the soul purpose of flirting with guys to drink for free all night ( I do understand that there are guys who do the same but it is less prevalent then with women). Now I believe as a basic guideline to learn from this is a great rule. I also believe that in the seduction community this has been blown completely out of proportion. True, if a woman is asking you to buy her a drink within the first 2 minutes of a conversation then don't, or even better yet LEAVE. But if you have been chatting it up for 15+ minutes and you are about to order yourself a new drink and you feel the interaction is going good then why not. There are a few techniques that I know but I will save that for another post.

Another example would be what happened to me the other night. I was talking to these three girls who were just friends of mine and I guess these two guys wanted to talk to them. Which was none of my concern but they came up and tried to AMOG me(Alpha Male Of Group or in other words in this case try to assert their dominance by bad mouthing me because of my career choice). Now the most common way to deal with AMOG's is to go at a battle of wits with them and prove I am more high-value then they are. But what I chose to do and an option in which I had to learn for myself was to invite them in and have fun with letting them make fools of themselves until the girls finally kicked them out of the group.

Being socially intelligent is really the core to being successful in any form of seduction from pickup to politics.

Now if you are completely new I do suggest that you get a base, a foundation to stand on first. Then once you start to get better and have some success go out and have fun with some of these rules. Start experimenting on what works with you and your personality so you can make your "game" more natural and not forced and robotic.

Can PIckup/Seduction tranfer into other parts of my life?

First off I want to explain the meaning of seduction. Most people define and only use the word seduction in a sexual manner, whereas if you look, seduction simply means to entice someone or tempt them. This is the definition that I am meaning.

The simple answer to this question is YES. The skills you learn in pickup can make you more successful in every aspect of your life.

A couple examples of people in the past who have used seduction to move up the social latter are:

Casanova, a man who by all right was not that high on the social latter. But, by the time he passed scores of noble women fought for the chance to be seduced by him. By being so selective it was actually a sign of great beauty and status to be seduced by him in some circles.

Madame Mao started off as a lowly courtesan. By seducing what has been said to be one of the strongest rulers of China, she effectively made herself to be recognized as a woman who obtained more power than any woman in Chinese history.

You could look at any politician from the beginning of history to the modern day president. Kennedy, Mussolini, and even the despicable Hitler, all great at seduction on a large scale. Now, I am not saying that Kennedy is anything like the later two but the tactics of seduction are no different. The difference is in the usage.

Am I saying that you can be the next great world leader. Actually if that is what you want then yes I am.

Take me for example, Yesterday sitting in class my teacher started to speak about handing out business cards, and how important it is to know how to properly approach. She started to say that the first 30 or so times it will be hard and you wont do it right. But if you keep it up and continue to approach anyways you will begin to get it and it will become easier.She began to speak about correct body language, eye contact, vocal projection and tonality. Now this women as far as I know, knows nothing of the community. But everything she spoke about we teach all the time.

I am going into a field that is a predominately female clientele. So being socially intelligent and being able to properly approach and seduce a woman will put more women in my salon. But this goes for almost any business.

Rockstars, if women love them not only will the women buy the albums but men will to to impress the woman. AFC's (Average Frustrated Chump) and PUA's (Pickup Artists) alike do this. Retail and the list goes on and on.

So again my point is, YES, seduction will help in every aspect of you life.

Disclaimer: I spoke mostly to a male audience but I want the women to know that I have worked with women and the tactics are the same with a few minor adjustments.

Where I differ from most methods

Usually now, the most common thing for an up and coming PUA trainer to do is to start at the beginning. They would start to tell you that when you approach that you need to portray the correct body language and to talk over your shoulder to the set. I 100% agree with body language but I split from most methods right here.

Most methods start to teach you openers. Tried and true lines or stories that generate interest when you first approach a woman. I feel that in some cases these can be good. And this is the reason:

Many who come into our community lack confidence, myself included. Instead of healing this problem or at least beginning to heal it, we bandage it. We give them the lines that they have confidence because the mPUA's, the professionals say they are proven to work. I truly think this is backwards.

I have recently found a fellow PUA who shares my favorite opener, "HI". Though I am still pretty unknown, my friend IceDragon, voted #1 PUA in Scotland, shares my love for this opener.

Like I have told those whom I have worked with, we over complicate this 'game'. I look at it like this games are supposed to be fun. How can I have fun if I have a check list of things in my head I am trying to do?

If you look at many of the PU companies out there today, all they do is create what I call "cookie-cutter PUA's". One example is I am in school to be a hairstylist, it is not socially intelligent to start reading palms and and throwing cards around.

What this community needs is to stop trying to be like the last big PUA and be like the next great PUA, YOU. We as teachers need to stop trying to make clones of ourselves and start making our students more confident, high-value men/women.

Until next time Good Sarging,

A brief intro to me.

I have been in the seduction community for sometime now. I started because I was scared of people and I; A) Wanted a girlfriend, and B) Wanted to have a group of people around me that would constantly push me to better myself.

When I first got into what has become known as the "game". I would throw up at the thought of talking to anyone, much less a beautiful young lady.

I have studied the material of almost every big and not so big company out there. I have greatly increased my game. To me this has become a life style about more than just picking up women. It has become about being the best possible person that I can be.

I will begin to post articles that I have written shortly. Right now I just want people to know who I am .